In this article, read about the thoughts of Dr. S. V. Gorbal – Principal, Jain College of Engineering and Research, Belgaum. He talks about how one can craft ones own life and how a person’s financial background should not be the determinant factor of one’s destiny.

Dr. S. V. Gorbal completed his Ph.D – Mechanical Engineering, From Vishweshwarya Technological University, Belgaum. He started his career with academics as a lecturer in engineering college, and now has 22yrs of teaching experience. He previously worked with BOE – Board of Examiners, VTU and currently nominated as Academic Senate Member of VTU.

We are all born with different status. Like it is popularly said that all fingers are not equal. The “fingers” used in this statement is just a figure of speech as its meaning goes beyond just fingers. This simply means that everyone has a different background, different status and different connections to the opportunities of life. (The word poor is not limited to financial status alone)

But having all these opportunities and connections or not having from birth doesn’t fully define your future (take note of the word ‘fully’). It all depends on the individual. Because we are born to a rich family does not mean we cannot die poor and because we are given birth to in a poor family does not mean we have to die poor. In fact, I will say if you are born poor it is not your fault, but dying poor is totally your fault and no one else’s. Many of us blame our parents for not being able to give us the life we want, not being rich enough to quench our taste for a good life, but instead of dwelling on this blame, it can be channelled into doing great things so that our own children would not feel the same way about us.

Changing our lives is totally dependent on us. The actions we take, the company we keep and the will to actually want this change and actualize it. There is a popular saying that goes like “study the conventional way and dump it”. This implies that we should learn the way things worked in the past, learn the mistakes made by our parents (not limited to them though), then after learning it you dump it. How do you learn the conventional way? No matter the experience we claim to have, we cannot know it all, learning is a process that is perpetual.

There are new things we learn every day and thanks to the available resources and technology of this generation, there are provisions for books, videos and even electronic books by successful people that give insights on how they transformed their lives from being an ordinary citizen to people we all look up to. These books should be read on a regular basis in order to enable us to have the kind of mind-set they had that changed their lives.

The thought of being poor alone should be a drive to succeed not an excuse to remain poor. Consider the lives of Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and even Mukesh Dhirubhai Ambani who happens to be the richest man in India currently. These people listed above were not born into a wealthy family, but they strived against all odds and made themselves big enough to have an economy of a country at their fingertip, so if they could make it from their backgrounds, what will be your excuse not to?

Our mind is embedded with ideas, all we need to do is fill it with enough information, train ourselves to manipulate these ideas into realities and trying to make the connections required to make this happen. Though some of us may find it difficult to motivate ourselves that’s why it is mostly advised to have a mentor.

So who is a mentor? A mentor is someone we trust enough to want to emulate, a person we run to for advice. These people help make us better, when we are confused, they help put us on the right path, and they don’t necessarily have to be our parents. If you are born poor it means you have to work twice as hard as the rich kids will. So ask yourself this, do you want to keep being a victim of what the world throws at you or you want to assume responsibility for your life?

“Remember it is not your mistake if you are born poor but it is your mistake if you die poor”